Day 365 of 365 — A Single Moms Vision for 2023.

Today is December 31, 2022, we are hours away from closing the chapter on this time in life known as 2022.

Many folks are using this time to reflect, revisit, review and analyze the things they have done in the past 365 days and how those actions have reaped the fruits and rewards of today. Those acts whether intentional or not intentional, are the basis for where we are today as a person, professional and human being. Others are making plans for 2023 and how they will make better choices to reap a different outcome or reward.

I am no different, I too, am sitting here in deep thought about what it has been like to be a single mom this past year. To balance a new business and stretch finances while making sure my children are emotionally, physically and mentally supported in all ways. I can say that changes within my life, like “putting my oxygen mask” on first — has made the difference in my life and parenting. Self care mentally and emotionally as a Mother, has been top focus and priority over the years. Reading stimulating books on parenting, healing, co parenting, the human brain, emotions and learning new tools and skills that benefit me as a person, but also as a mother which in turn benefit my children. I have also, made it a priority to attend therapy weekly as a part of my self care and also attend, participate and engage with other single mom friends in my sisterhood as much as possible. The saying” it takes a village to raise a child” — is absolutely true. Getting over the heartbreak of what I imagined my life to be, how I planned it to be and how I wanted it to be — -versus what it actually is — has made a huge difference in how I handled things in 2022.

Healing is often a moving target — as you heal as a woman and as a mother, your children heal and reap the benefits of a healed, present and compassionate mom. It’s not all roses, and easy — it’s been tough yet my strengths come from having a positive circle around me and believing in a higher power for all the resources and answers.

This year of 2022 has brought me my first successful year as a Entrepreneur. That in itself brought its own challenges and rewards. Yet, I learned, survived and will use the knowledge and wisdom I acquired in 2023 to build an even stronger presence, practice and professional landscape for my business and clientele. I am grateful to leverage the aide of real estate coaches, mentors and a collective of supportive people around me. I learned for the first time to lean on unstable income that varies and trust in the process and utilize the help that's available for women on the rise like me. I have always been the helper in the past, in this season, I learned it’s okay to be helped once in a while.

As a parent, I became a better mom. I focused on learning skills to parent my children better and become aware of myself, my triggers and the different parenting styles that are available. I am learning my children each as individuals. I am learning to affirm them, listen to them and feed their souls with endless positivity, encouragement and support. Things that our schools do not teach and imbed in them. Self assurance, awareness and relationship building is a key factor in my parenting relationship with my kids.

As a single mom, I wont be able to do it all, but the things I can do — I want to do them well. As a family, we began family therapy and individually I put each of my children in therapy as an outlet and a tool for self betterment. I learned I can’t be all things and emotionally and mentally — giving my children a place to have their voice heard, their opinions heard and help working through day to day life issues and happiness — was for their own good.

As I close out this year, I know that as a single mom being the best, strongest version of myself ultimately serves my children’s best interests and lifestyle and well being. I will take with me , myself and I and focus tenderly on self care, self love and operating from my highest most authentic version of myself. Taking me time — away from the title of “Mom”, “Entrepreneur” or “Advocate” — unplugging from the world to plug in to myself — is the greatest vision I have for myself in 2023!

Hello 2023!

Goals I intentionally plan to manifest.

As a individual person, I aim to ensure my mental health is priority. As a I age and turn another year older — I have to add physical heath on to the list as well.

As a business professional, in order to enjoy and create a successful business founded on integrity, ethics, morals and overall acceptance and education — I will continue to learn, earn and build pathways , connections and tools — to help others reach their dream. In turn those pathways will lead me to the dreams I have for myself and future generations.

Self care and rest are not negotiables.

As a mom, learning to skillfully understand, listen and support my children in their lives is necessary. I also want to ensure we have more family time together, dinners at the table, vacations and family nights — just us. I seek to create open lanes of communication with their father(s) — making co parenting an active goal regardless of anything else.

As you close out year 2022 — what is your vision?

• What are the main areas in your life that you would like to focus on? Family? Parenting? Self? Finances?
• Think about what worked in 2022, what will you reuse in 2023?
• Think about what did not work in 2022, what do you need to toss out in 2023?
• Who can you connect with in 2023 to help you meet the vision you have for yourself & overall lifestyle?
• How do you want to work on your parenting skills and abilities?
• Realistically .How do you imagine your 2023 being?

Believe in yourself beyond immeasurable doubt — we are often our own worst critics. Be kind to yourself.

Tomorrow is a new day! A clean slate, a fresh start — Day 1!

Make it count.